Love is a mandatory thing. To live by Love is an absolute must if you want to live a life that is worth living, if you want to enjoy good health, if you want to be happy, after all. I should say that Love is the main prerequisite for Joy, motivation and happiness altogether.

What Love is

While Love is the very foundation of a life lived well, it is nothing special. In fact, it is rather trivial a thing.

It’s a mere decision to live with the attitude of generosity to everything and all, with yourself in the first place. 

Love vs “being in love”

It is “being in love” that is a miracle. But “being in love” has nothing to do with Love, except that it means something good only when it happens within the safe environment of love. In other words, your attitude of Love should include even those with whom you “are in love” . It’s a win-win or lose-lose situation. With Love present, you can safely “be in love”. But if your general attitude to yourself and the World around you is something different from Love, then you’d better not “be in love” , because then “being in love” will inevitably ruin you and, most likely, even those with whom you “are in love”.

Why Love is important

Love is mandatory – period. And no use to visit therapists and physicians if you fail to choose Love. No diet will help you. No pill will be able to give you a long term solution. You will feel miserable, wretched, derailed if you don’t love. Love is the ATTITUDE that we choose, and Love is the only attitude that makes us alive.

You can be rich, powerful and famous, but you will always feel miserable if Love is not your attitude yet. Because rich, famous, powerful gives you nothing, if you live – in hell. Not choosing Love means living in hell. And hell is hell, no matter how beautiful or luxurious it may happen to present itself.

What Love Is Again

Love IS NOT an emotion, Love is not being attached, Love is not sex, Love is not liking somebody, Love is not needing somebody. Love is not being together with somebody.

Love is an ATTITUDE. Love is an attitude that we choose. Love is the attitude of the happy. Love helps us to survive. Love makes us strong. Love heals. Love is the prerequisite of living the life. Love is the life itself.

Choosing Love means choosing Life. Choosing the opposite means choosing not to live the life.

All-inclusive Love

Ancient wisdom teaches us to Love our enemies. Some martial arts teach to Love the opponent so that you can identify yourself with them, understand their way of thinking and their strategies.

“If your enemy is hungry, feed them. If they are thirsty, give them water. By doing so you will put burning coal on their head.” This advice can be found even in the Bible.

These words bring us very close to the understanding what Love actually is. It is important to agree on terms, is it not?

How can we love the World and all the people in it if we don’t know what Love is.

Love is not kissing or hugging. Love is not sex. Love is not about saying, “I love you!”. In fact, when we say that, we don’t mean Love, but something very special and very different.

But Love is very simple, very plain, very determined WISHING WELL to absolutely all the people who live in the World, including those who hurt you, including your worst enemies. And that wishing well must include your readiness to act, to help them when your help is needed. An essential part of Love is the readiness to sacrifice – even if that is as little as a small portion of your time, money, work, resources.

You don’t go around your town and shout out for everyone, “I love you!” The fact that we Love people should be a natural implication of our being ourselves. It does not need to be repeated again and again.

Most of the time, people will manage their own lives, and they won’t be dependent on whether you Love them or not. Loving them is an attitude of yours. And that attitude, the attitude of Love, has critical importance for your own well-being.

Even if there will be only one person whom you don’t Love, that is much too much. And this is critical to understand well – while there will be though  only one person whom you don’t Love, you are out! Only 100% all-inclusive love is Love.

“Better” than your enemies

Set yourself free by taking a brave decision to Love absolutely all people without exceptions or excuses. When you take such a decision, YOU ARE FREE. Only then you are free. And from that point you begin to have a very good ground for improving your health and general well-being.

That does not require any other immediate action. Only from now on, if you see somebody’s car stuck on a muddy road, you will help them get out, even if that is your worst “enemy”. If you see somebody stumble and hurt themselves, you will use all the resources available to help them get help. And when you will see your worst enemy wrongly accused, you will stand up and defend them.

They may be dishonest, unreliable, troublemakers, they can be wretched murderers, they can be hurting you and your loved ones.

But for the sake of your own wellness, it is critically important that you do not respond with the same.

Let them be how they are. What actually matters for you is that you will be honest, reliable, well-wishing, helpful and wholesome. And it will be you who will benefit most from this attitude.

This works very well for myself, and I can’t see how it can be not helpful for anyone else.

What “I love you” actually means

If now Love includes all the people in the whole World, how about the very closest people – wife, husband, children, parents, siblings, friends? Yes, they all are in. They are included in that Love too.

But you don’t catch people in the street to tell them that you love them even if you have taken the decision to love all the people, meaning that you have decided to be well-wishing for everybody. But when we say that to some special people, what we actually mean is this: “You are a very special person in my life”, “I feel so good together with you”, “I like being with you so very much”, “If I don’t see you for some longer time, I start intensely longing for being with you”. Or something similar. And that is the good scenario.

But the words, “I love you!” can also mean “I want you to make me happy”, “I want you to be my property” , “I want you to take off your clothes”, and so on. That is terribly wrong. It gives completely wrong message about what Love is.

The danger of not loving

To love all the people is an absolute must if you want to live a happy full value life. You can’t be happy even if there is only one person in the World, whom you don’t love. You can’t be happy if you wish them something bad, plot a revenge, fail to forgive. It is not them whom you hurt. It is your own self, your own life. That is why it is absolutely important to love all and hate none.

But now, if you wanted to marry all those whom you love, that would be 7 billion people, give or take. Or roughly a half of that that would be the opposite sex.  That is a joke, of course, but intended to show that what we call Love is actually a combination of Love (your decision to love all) and something more on top of that, like strong attraction and liking.

Keep Love simple

While Love is a mandatory thing without which a full value life is impossible, Love++ is optional. It is good to have, of course. But if you don’t, you should not worry.

But you should always keep it as simple as this: you love all people, and that means that you wish only the best, even for the villains and enemies. You hate nobody. And the first person on the Earth to love is – yourself.

Because it is only through yourself how you can love other people and the life as such. You don’t have any other “tool” for bringing love to the world, do you? Love yourself with all your heart, and you will see how the whole world becomes for you easily lovable.