I wish I could live among truly selfish people, true egoists, but there is next to none around. The problem is not that we have too much selfishness or egoism where we live. The problem is that we are short of it, critically short.

The best thing that could ever happen to a person or community, would be that all the people around become truly and unconditionally – selfish. I have been looking for such truly selfish people far and near, but I find next to none. Most people act like they were their own haters and enemies. When you deny yourself satisfaction of your most vital needs, can you then be called a truly selfish person?

I think this video explains the point very well:

There are two kinds of needs that must be in balance. There is the need of getting by taking and the need of getting by giving. The second always comes after the first, but both are equally important. Truly selfish people know that and respect that. Truly selfish people are generous to themselves, and then generous to the world around them.

Everyone who has ever tried to give joy to somebody else for free, without expecting anything in return or even a thank you, will know what I am speaking of. They will have participated in the most gratifying, heavenly turnaround of joy. They will have fed themselves with the multiplied joy that returns back to them from their generous “investment”.

Truly selfish people, those who love themselves unconditionally, are always generous to themselves. They are proud of giving themselves the pleasure of savoring food and wine. They give themselves good sleep. They give themselves a generous amount of physical movement. They embrace sexual gratification and do not spoil it with lack of emotional connection. In one word – they treat their own selves with Love.

They know that treating their own selves with Love enables them to treat others the same way. They know that people are illogical, unreasonable, ungrateful, but the truly selfish people are kind and helpful anyway. They are always ready to help even their enemies. Because they know that what they do to them is not quite as much for the sake of others as it is for the sake of their own selves.

Treating everyone with kindness and Love, including their own selves, and with their own selves in the first place, is their key to healthy, exciting, fulfilled – Life – for their own selves!

Works excellently for me. Always. Would you try, too?